This is just going to be a quickie to let you know we're all doing OK and to say thank you...
Meaghan wanted me to "...say a HUGE THANK YOU to all of the Twitter people, and the Facebook people and the blog people" for your prayers, tweets, messages, thoughts, and general positive vibes" for her. You all are, in short, our people. I mean that in all sincerity. I hold you all close to my heart. Many of you I don't know and have never interacted with out here on the mighty mighty interwebs, but each one of you holds a special place in my heart - in our family's hearts.
Gareth and I have been moved beyond words at the immense outpouring of love, kind words, prayers and thoughts aimed towards Meaghan and our family.
All of the young adults involved in the accident, Meaghan, Chris and Tyler are so grateful for your prayers and thoughts and words. Tyler could use even more right now as he is still in the hospital. He came through surgery beautifully and will eventually completely recover from his injuries sustained in the accident. Chris suffered very minimal injuries which is miraculous because he was the front passenger seat. At 6'6" and in a VW Jetta, and being on the side of the vehicle that was impacted by the Chevy Blazer going 55MPH+, it's just a miracle he wasn't more severely injured. He has been an absolutely angel through this entire thing. It was his car. He had let Meaghan borrow it as the Volvo we'd given her had sputtered it's last breath and she was without transportation. He's been there for both Meaghan and Tyler through the last couple of days and is making sure Meaghan understands that it was only a car and that cars can be replaced. Meaghans, Tylers, and Chris' can not be replaced.
Meaghan sadly is taking this all very hard. Physically she has some pretty severe facial trauma, a concussion and deep tissue contusions to her leg and thigh. Emotionally the injuries run much deeper and she's in need of a great deal of prayer and positive thoughts right now. Neither Tyler nor his parents harbor any blame or anger towards her and have told her this repeatedly yet she blames herself and is really beating herself up over it. I can offer ice packs and pain relievers for the physical pain but I don't know how to help her through the mental pain she's going through. Gareth and I aren't angry at all. Not in the least. We're just so very grateful she's here. Another couple of millimeters and she would have slammed head first into a telephone poll and this might have had a very different outcome. The Jetta literally flew in between the telephone poll and a real estate sign with mere millimeters to spare, and then came to rest in a soggy, muddy, drainage ditch.
So many of you who know my history or who have read of the loss of my oldest son Joshua have asked how I'm doing.
I basically relived the night Joshua was struck and killed by a motorist on a dark high desert road. From getting the phone call letting me know Meaghan had been in a serious accident and was being transported by ambulance to the nearest trauma unit, to the drive there, to walking into the emergency room it was nearly identical to that dark night so many years ago when we lost Joshua.
Except in the end, it wasn't. In the end I knew that all three of those kids had a little angel with big brown eyes and golden curly hair watching out for them. In the end I was able to touch my daughter and look into her eyes and bring her home.
Something inside me has shifted. I'm still processing all of the emotions and feelings from the last two days and am so very tired...weary with mental and physical exhaustion. It's going to take me a couple of days to sort everything out and regain my own emotional bearings. Yet something deep inside has shifted and I think it's a good thing. Issues have come into clearer focus for me - sharper than at any time in the last nearly two years of the hell I've been living. My perspective on everything going on around me, some of which I have recently shared with you, has changed dramatically.
The most important thing though is that my family - the people that are mine and whom I belong to, (and yes Chris, this includes YOU!) are intact, and whole and will get through this. That fact alone makes so many other things seem so minor. If I have my family, I have everything!
P.S. I hope you will forgive me the typos and grammatical boo-boos. I'm running on little more than 2 hours of sleep in the last 48+ hours and I think it's safe to say, I don't have my wits (which include things like putting my fingers in the correct places on the keyboard, or worrying about verbs, nouns, conjugates, etc...), about me.